Dealing with children on a daily basis can really give you a good outlook on anger management. I have been in the childcare field for over fifteen years and as funny as it may sound, you can learn a lot more from a toddler than you would ever imagine! At any given time in my home you could, and probably will, encounter an all out knock down drag out fight over a toy, a bottle, my attention or even food at times. Toddlers are determined to have their way and they believe whole heartedly that screaming, yelling, crying, snatching or hitting is the way to get what they want. Fortunately most children are taught over time that those are not appropriate ways to get what they want nor are they proper ways to express your anger.
How funny would it be if you walked in your office and came across your boss kicking and crying on the floor because he or she couldn’t manage to get the fax machine to work properly. What if your office mate was upset over a broken computer so she or he decided to come and take yours! As adults we have grown up and most of us have the capability to manage our anger by talking about things but what happens when you come across an adult who is not able to express themselves without the use of physical or emotional abuse towards others.
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems that occur at work, in your personal relationships, and in all sorts of other areas. It can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. Instinct is what naturally causes us to respond to anger with aggressiveness. On the other hand it is not expectable for us to physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us.While we are supposed to use the usual three approaches to anger, expressing, suppressing and calming, people with anger management issues are unable to do so.
Anger can and should sometimes be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. There is however a dangerous side to this type of response. If outward expression is not allowed, your anger can turn inward and you end up doing more damage to yourself such a high blood pressure and anxiety attacks.
Using a calming technique is what most doctors or therapist suggest. It is suggested that when anger management issues arise we should find something soothing to us. For some it is listening to music to others it may be reading or writing. Many people even like to jog or perhaps play a video game. It is all dependant on the different person.
When all natural methods fail, there are medications that can help and often times is used by those who you would least expect. As I said before, anger is a natural emotion and we all experience it at one time or another. The way we handle it is what makes or breaks us and communication is the key to living a healthy emotional lifestyle.