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Victim or Martyr?
By: David Bruce Jr.

A comparison of victim and martyr characteristics

 
Victim:  
  1. Usually has short-term problem
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Martyr:  
 Long-term problem
 
Victim:
 2. Motivated to change
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Martyr:     
 Stuck in their problem
Victim: 
 3. Rights violated by others
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Martyr:
 Rights violated by others
 
Victim:
 4. Did not choose the problem
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Martyr:
 Chooses to remain in problem situation
 
Victim:
 5. Never complains
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Martyr:
 Complains all the time
 
Victim:
 6. Lacks insight into problem
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Martyr::
 Frequently has insight into the problem
 
Victim:
 7. Unknowingly plays an active part in the problem
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Martyr: 
 Frequently knowingly plays an active part in the problem
 
Victim:
 8. Doesn't often seek help
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Martyr:
 Seeks help all the time
 
Victim:
 9. Wants to ``let go'' of problem
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Martyr:  
 ``Holds on to'' the problem
 
Victim:
10. Guilt free
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Martyr:
 Guilt driven
 
Victim:
11. Solution oriented
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Martyr:
 Problem oriented
 
Victim:
12. Powerless due to lack of knowledge
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Martyr:
 Powerless out of a free will choice to be so
 
this list was used with permission from  Dr James Messina's website Coping.org http://www.coping.org/relations/martyr.htm#difference
Coping.org is a Public Service of James J. Messina, Ph.D. & Constance M. Messina, Ph.D.,

This an many other articles on addiction and addiction recovery can be found at:

http://victimbehavior.blogspot.com

http://surviveincestptsd.blogspot.com/

http://codependentbounaries.blogspot.com/

http://repairmanual4selfdestructivebehavior.blogspot.com/

http://globalbeliefs.blogspot.com/

http://crackaddictionrecovery.blogspot.com/

David Bruce Jr is an author and recovering Incest Survivor in Frederick Maryland

Blogger Profile: http://www.blogger.com/profile/11541537639894691475

Contact info: David Bruce Jr. 240 315-1515 davidbruce@frederick.com


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